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The “Fat” Problem – Preggo Style

Half a year ago, I wrote a post challenging the  commonly held notions surrounding body image. In light of recent events, I realize it is time to revisit the issue… preggo style.

I’ve gained 10 pounds and it’s all up front. Don’t even get me started on my ever-growing boobs. Since I was already on the heavy side, my doctor suggested a weight gain range of 11 to 20 pounds. Gestational diabetes, excessive weight gain and increased risk to myself and my unborn child prompted a higher awareness to dietary choices. Resisting the urge to succumb to every craving was a challenge, but lucky for me my cravings consist primarily of fresh fruit, fresh veggies, salad, smoothies and yogurt. Thankfully, the Tiny Human wants more than just bacon cheeseburgers, french fries, and amazing grilled cheese sandwiches from Melt.

I’ve always been painfully aware of the fact I would never be what I consider one of those “cute” pregnant women. Social media is constantly flooded with weekly baby bump photos detailing the progress of pregnancy. By the time the 9th month rolls around, you might think she’s stuffed a beach ball under her shirt. What makes it even more difficult for those of us who weigh in on the bigger side is seeing the few who are lucky enough to return to their pre-pregnancy figure immediately after child birth – with seemingly no effort.

Why go into all this? This past weekend at work I had 2 different clients express surprise at me being only 7 months pregnant. Based on my size they thought I was further along, and didn’t hesitate to comment on it.

I don’t understand why people think it’s okay to comment on how “big” – or how “little” – a woman is during pregnancy. In general, women are already sensitive about their weight/size/shape. A 9-month-long ride on the hormone roller coaster only makes it worse. Even the most emotionally stable, self-assured women experience days where they feel less than 100% beautiful – pregnant or not.

A quick Google search for “things to never say to a pregnant woman” brings “about 83,700,000″ results. Most of the sites I checked featured at least 2 to 5 points regarding weight/size/shape.

On the contrary, a Google search for “things to never say to a women” comes up with “about 516,000,000” results. The majority of them are geared toward men with far fewer references to weight/size/shape.

Don’t even get me started on the inconsistencies and sexism behind the differences in those searches. That’s another post entirely.

Where am I going with all of this? I simply ask that you be aware. Pregnant women get bigger and bigger as the Tiny Human grows and we are made constantly aware of this fact as our clothes fit tighter and tighter as each day passes…without comments from friends, family, co-workers, customers, or even complete strangers. In a society where “skinny is sexy” gets shoved down our throats on a daily basis, we don’t need reminding. Just tell us how excited you are for us, or how much fun having kids is. Please leave the comments about our appearance to yourself, we’re probably thinking it anyway.

Note: I originally drafted this post 3 days ago, and since then I have had at least 4 clients express surprise at my baby belly exclaiming that they didn’t even realize I was pregnant and how great I look. So there’s that…and it makes me smile.

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